You Can't Have It All

What we want from life?

A high profile job or a mediocre job? Loving parents or caring In-laws? A handsome boyfriend or amorous husband?

Family dinner or late night parties? A simple rule of life is “You can’t have it all”.

Life is not that kind and fair; everyone gets their own share. The most important thing is to feel happy. All that comes to my mind is should we feel happy in what we get or should we know what makes us happy and put all our efforts to get that.

I struggled a lot thinking about this day and night for many years. As a third person’s view my life is so perfect but then I think am I happy? Do I feel motivated? Do I feel contented? Then I realized that I have many things but I don’t have the feeling of satisfaction I don’t feel happy.

I got lot confused I started feeling I am not counting my blessing am I not respecting things I got etc. After lots of thinking I came to a conclusion that it’s not me who is complaining, cribbing and irritable all the time. We may have many things but we don’t know what exactly we want to make us happy.

Happiness can be from a very basic and simple thing like relaxing and sipping a hot coffee on a rainy day, or sleeping till 11 am, or not cleaning up the mess in the home, or sitting whole day doing nothing.

The only thing is we should know what makes us happy. Internal happiness is what is required for a healthy happy life. Accept the fact you can’t have it all. You have to settle down in life with the options you have, choices you made and decisions you took.

Once you have accepted the things you will see that even if you cant have it all, whatever you have you will be able to create a balance and happiness will follow.

I AM ME

         

v  I should consider myself blessed.

v  Count your blessing

v  Your husband is the best thing that can happen to you, else “kaise kaise husband hotay hai”

v  You kids are god’s gift

v  Consider yourself lucky you got married on time

v  Say thanks to god for having kids timely

v  Good that you’re in laws are not like mine

v  At least you can go out and work think about me….

If you are a girl I am sure you must have heard/came across at least one of them, if not all. 
I wonder and going through a massive inner conflict thinking is this 
what is all needed in a girl’s life?? Why a girl's happiness is associated and dependent on others?Is this the definition for a girl’s happiness??  These are normal things why a girl is supposed to feel and think lucky for these routine events? And for that matter why only a girl is lucky it should stand good for both partners.

The problem is with the mindset of people, the inequality that prevails in the society, the fact that girl is always at mercy. Marriage is a relation, a commitment between two people to live together and face good bad together. Then from where all this comes into picture?

Why a man is not considered lucky that a qualified girl is coming to his home, accepting his non caring parents, respecting them and doing chores in their home for them!!!!

v  Why girl has to cook for all?

v  Why ultimately it’s a mother’s responsibilities to get up at 2.30 am to change diapers?

v  Why girl has to adjust as per new customs and traditions?

v  Why girl has to dress as per her in laws guidelines?

v  Why girl’s lives change after marriage and then kids?

v  Why girl has to wear toe ring, bangals,wear sindoor and other things after marriage when boy wears the same jeans and t shirt he used to wear before marriage

v  Why girl is considered lucky if she is able to continue job after marriage and kids?

v  Why girl has to get up first and wake up husband and kids?

v  Why girl has to make kids ready and have to put kids to bed?

v  Why a girl is being blamed if a son talk back with his parents?(“ Kaan bhar diye” the most common phrase you can relate to)

Numerous why comes in my mind daily ….some amuses me, some irritates me, and some get tears in my eyes some invites sarcasm but at the end all remain unanswered.

When when and when the society will change? When the mindset will transform? When the revolution will happen?? Till when a girl has to sleep with wet eyes.

We should not talk about research and science experiment when we are still stuck with rudimentary intricacies of life.

Yes I am blessed and I am lucky but I have my own reasons

v  I am born intelligent

v  I been a topper throughout

v  I am good looking and know how to carry myself

v  People appreciate my dressing and my style

v  I am a good person and I can keep secrets

v  I am good at my work

v  I am decent cook

v  I reduced weight recently

v  Even after two kids I look young and smart

v  I got a job even after break of 5-6 years

v  I am doing good at work

v  I know who’s who

And Above all I AM ME!!!!!!